It seems everywhere you look these days there’s some sort of inspirational quote about following your passion. Not only are we supposed to have the car, the house, the family, the relationship, the baby, the body, the style – now we are also feeling the pressure to quit our job and chase our dreams.
As a life and career coach it’s very easy to get caught up in the hype and feel like it’s my job to convince people to do just that. These guru coaches call down from their mountain tops, ‘follow your passion, shine like the stars, shimmer like glitter, anything is possible’ etc etc. And yes, I absolutely believe that all those things are so lovely, but for some people it all just seems like total bullshit. I get it.
Let’s be honest, everyone wants to be paid for something they love doing. If there was a job going that just involved cuddling baby animals that would be great, please pick me. But at the same time we have to be realistic and accept that we need to make a living and if we can do that while doing something we don’t totally hate, then great.
So many of us do just that, we settle for something that ‘will do’. But bloody hell, we spend half our lives at work so let’s try and choose something that energises us, not drains us. (Especially if you’re a working mum. That’s why I got into this job. I very quickly figured out that if you are going to be a working mum you HAVE to be doing something that lifts you up and energises you, otherwise you are going to come home depleted and no one will be happy.)
‘Ok Carlie, so how do I do that?’ I hear you say… Well, this is something that so many clients come to me for help with. They say ‘I want to find my passion’ or ‘I need to find something I can feel excited about’. I love hearing this because it means they are looking for a spark and they have made a step towards finding it.
The thing with finding your passion is that it’s a bit like finding your soul mate, it’s too much pressure and you kind of have to just let it happen organically. But that’s not to say you don’t need to put in the work and put yourself out there. The fact is, there are lots of things that you could feel passionate about and – here we go, I’m about to pull out the J word – it’s a journey. We are not supposed to do just one thing our whole lives.
I have many passions but they don’t all need to be turned into a career. I am always looking into new things and seeing where they take me. When I look back at all the steps that led me to where I am now, it astounds me how each experience helped to shape me and guide me towards my next decision. As I’ve said before, we can have all the plans in the world but the universe is always going to step in and make it pretty clear which way we need to go, even if it challenges us.
My job is amazing but I know I won’t be doing it forever, and that’s ok, in fact that’s great! Coaching is one of my passions and it has sparked my curiosity about how the mind works so now I am learning all I can about that. (Did I tell you I’m starting uni soon?)
If someone was to ask me what the secret to finding your passion is, I’d say ‘follow your curiosity. It will take you where you need to go.’
It’s interesting to look back over the past couple of years and how I have achieved my goal of being able to work around my daughter, in my pyjamas, without joining any form of network marketing program. My business started off as a remote admin service, which morphed into resume writing, which turned into career coaching, which will hopefully lead to writing books and workshops that reach a lot of people. I’ve been learning and growing the whole way along I’ll continue to do so.
It’s easy to get ‘stuck’ and feel like taking that next step or making that next move is too scary or risky or hard. We get that voice in our head that says we are not good enough, or worse we feel paralysed because we don’t even know what that next step should be. Well the answer is, you don’t have to know.
Just ask yourself, what interests me? What catches my eye, or pricks my ears up, or even makes my heart race a little?
When I was looking at uni courses online just for the heck of it I realised my heart was racing and I knew that I needed to pay attention to that. That’s your body telling you something. It’s your soul telling you to head down this path, even just a little. You can always turn back around if it doesn’t feel right but if you don’t check it out you won’t know. Just take one little step. Get off Facebook and do some googling about something that you’d like to know more about and see where your clicks take you.
What’s missing in your life? What did you love as a child that you just don’t make time for anymore? Did you love picking flowers, dancing, painting, being outdoors, making up games for your friends, being around animals? Don’t think of it in terms of creating a career, in fact don’t think too much at all, just listen to your body and follow your curiosity and see where it takes you.
Maybe you’ll discover something that leads you to the next big chapter in your life. I know so many inspiring people that has happened to. Or maybe you’ll just have a little bit of fun. Or maybe it’ll be a disaster and you can find a lesson in it that you can call on later when you try the next thing. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and there is a reason why you are sitting there reading this article right now. The question is, where will you click next?
Book recommendation + hot time saver tip:
Recently I finished reading a book called Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. If you are a bit like me and feel called to be creative but get that silly voice telling you you’re not good enough then it would be worth checking out. Don’t have time to read? Download it on audible.com.au. You get a free first month and it means you can ‘read’ while driving, walking, cooking, laying in bed even. It’s the bomb.
Much love to you beautifuls xx
PS: Want me to work with you on this fabulous little journey? Let’s chat.